SEXY

Sexy.  What really IS sexy?  In 1992, Right Said Fred was sexy...in fact, too sexy.  He was too sexy for his hat, his shirt, his car, his love....Milan and Japan!!!  Geesh, he was too sexy for just about everything!  When you start to think about what's REALLY sexy...there's a lot of things that get in the way.  No matter where you look, you can really get a distorted view these days.  According to "zillions" of advertisers...just about anything can MAKE you sexy.  If you're a man, AXE body spray is all you need.  Spray it on and, WATCH OUT...you're gonna be sexy and you won't be able to keep people away!!!  For women, there's tons of stuff out there to make you sexy.  If you remember back in the 80's....Enjoli Perfume was the ticket....she could bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan and never forget who was her man.  WOW...all just by wearing Enjoli.  Too bad it's not still widely available, as it would probably help to reduce the staggering number of divorces these days.  If you ask people what's sexy...you'll always get a wide range of answers.  Hot, big muscles.  Big boobs.  A chiseled jaw.  Cut thighs.  Is that what sexy is all about?  Is it always physical?  I think that we can all remember a time in our lives, that we have frozen in our memory, when we can remember thinking that we were "sexy"!  Maybe some of you are still there, but as you get older, it becomes a memory that's frozen in our mind.  For me, I can think back to the summer of ....oh....about 1995.  I was 28, working out with a trainer 3 days a week, working out in SOME capacity at least everyday, eating boiled chicken and brown rice with a nice little treat of peach yogurt and a can of tuna at around 10am in the morning.  I was a slave to what I ate and working out, but it payed off...I WAS SEXY.  I wish I knew how to add a photo to this blog, as I would attach a photo of me on the beach in Greece that summer...all slicked up like a pig...in my "little" square cut bathing suit.  WOW.  Like I said...it's a time frozen in my mind.  It's kind of scary, as I can remember being a young kid and making some smart remark to my Mom about her appearance, and she would say, "I was young and lovely, once."  Hmmmm...."young and lovely?"  Well she probably really meant to say, "I was a sexy hot thing in my day", but ...if you knew my Mom....probably words that would never have come out of her mouth!!!  But I used to think, when she said that.....how weird.......I'll always stay in good shape and look sexy!!!  If you don't, you really have no proof and it's just your word.  Again, WOW.  How times change.  Now, at 43, I'm starting to say what she said to people my junior.  Ugh.  I thought this day would never come!  But when I think about it more....was the "ME" of 1995 really sexy?  Yeah, on the outside I was all that and a bag of chips, but at what cost?  I was a slave to the gym, I could NEVER eat what I wanted and carbs were an ABSOLUTE no no.  YUCK.  How not fun.  Some day...these days....the thought of NOT working out and EATING TONS of carbs is all that gets me through the day!!!  So I start to wonder....what's sexy?  Oh sure, I'm only human and can totally admit that when I see some HOT ticket go by, my head turns. (Did you like how I kept that ambiguous and said "HOT ticket"?  You know....kinda keeping the reading wondering?  Yeah right, you KNOW I'm talking about Daniel Craig....yikes!!!  Depressing to think that we're the same age.  Doesn't matter, I was young and hot once....ooops!!!!)  OK, so I digress.  So, what's sexy?  Well, as the years go by, my idea of "SEXY" has changed...A LOT!!!!  Where as a rock hard body and a bright set of pearly whites used to do it for me (still doesn't hurt)...sexy is....well, it's less physical.  It comes more from within.  So you really want to know what "I" think is sexy?  Well I'm gonna tell ya.  To me, sexy is being able to say, "I'm sorry."  It's being able to take the things that are put upon you and make the best of it, while keeping your chin up and keeping a positive attitude.  It's the ability to take lemons and make lemon aid.  It's being able to say, "I tried, I really tried, but I failed."  It's being able to take the good times with the bad times.  Kinda like when "Breeders" get married..."For richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, times of joy and times of sorrow, through triumph and failure....."  For me, sexy is just that...it's being "you" and being the best "you" that "you" can be.  I'm not saying not to try, but do your best....all the time....be thankful for what you have.  Now to "me" THAT'S SEXY!!!   (kinda weird how "SEXY" changes as we get older and wiser...isn't it!)